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Choosing Between Divorce and Legal Separation: A Guide for Couples

May 19, 2025
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Posted By: Robert M. Kaplan
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When a marriage hits a crossroads, couples are often faced with a difficult decision: should we legally separate or move forward with divorce? It’s a deeply personal choice with emotional, legal, and financial implications.

At our Schaumburg family law firm, we’ve guided countless clients through both paths, and the answer isn’t always one-size-fits-all. Understanding the key differences between legal separation and divorce is the first step toward making a confident, informed decision for yourself and your family. 

What Is Legal Separation and How Does It Work?

Legal separation allows a married couple to live apart and address important issues like property division, parenting responsibilities, and spousal support—all without ending the marriage. It requires a court order and involves many of the same legal steps as divorce.

In Illinois, legal separation is available to couples who are living separately and wish to resolve financial and parenting matters without terminating the marriage. While you remain legally married, a separation agreement outlines each spouse’s rights and obligations.

Key Differences Between Divorce and Legal Separation

When comparing legal separation vs. divorce, there are a few crucial differences to keep in mind:

  • Marital Status — In a legal separation, you are still legally married and cannot remarry. Divorce ends the marriage completely.
  • Property Division — Both processes allow the court to divide assets and debts, though some couples may choose to keep finances partially combined during a separation.
  • Spousal Support — Just like in a divorce, one spouse may be ordered to pay spousal support during legal separation.
  • Benefits and Insurance — Legal separation may allow one spouse to stay on the other’s health insurance or retain military and/or pension benefits that might be lost after divorce.
  • Religious or Personal Beliefs — Some couples choose legal separation for religious reasons or personal values that discourage divorce.

When Might Legal Separation Be a Better Option Than Divorce?

Legal separation isn’t just a “pre-divorce.” It’s a valid option in several scenarios, including:

  • Religious or Moral Concerns — If divorce conflicts with your faith or beliefs, separation allows for space and legal clarity without dissolving the marriage.
  • Uncertainty about Reconciliation — Some couples aren’t ready for the finality of divorce and want to see if reconciliation is possible.
  • Health Insurance Coverage — Legal separation may allow one spouse to stay on the other's plan, particularly when private insurance is unaffordable.
  • Financial Planning or Retirement Timing — Separation can offer time to manage assets or pensions before taking the step into divorce.

If any of these apply to you, legal separation might be the right short- or long-term solution.

Financial and Legal Consequences of Each Option

Whether you choose legal separation or divorce, there are financial consequences to both:

  • Debt Responsibility — In both cases, the court can assign responsibility for shared debts, including credit cards, mortgages, and loans.
  • Tax Filing — Separated couples remain married for tax purposes, which may allow for joint filing. Divorced individuals must file separately.
  • Retirement Accounts — These can be divided in either process, though full division typically occurs in divorce unless otherwise agreed.
  • Estate Planning — Divorce revokes spousal inheritance rights; legal separation does not, unless updated through wills or estate documents.

Understanding how your choice affects your financial future is essential, especially when large assets or debts are involved.

How Child Custody and Support Are Handled in Separation vs. Divorce

In both legal separation and divorce, the court can establish:

  • Parenting Time (Custody) — The court creates a parenting plan outlining where children live, visit, and how parenting responsibilities are shared.
  • Child Support — Calculated based on income and needs, child support is handled the same way in both separation and divorce cases in Illinois.
  • Decision-Making — Both processes require decisions around education, healthcare, religion, and extracurriculars.

The big difference is this: in a legal separation, parenting arrangements are temporary and can be revised easily if the couple reconciles. In divorce, the plan is more permanent, requiring further legal action to modify it.

How to Decide What’s Right for You: Divorce or Separation?

Choosing between divorce and legal separation can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to navigate it alone. A skilled divorce lawyer or family lawyer in Schaumburg can help you:

  • Understand the pros and cons of each option for your unique situation
  • Create separation or divorce agreements that protect your interests
  • Represent you in court and handle paperwork, deadlines, and negotiations
  • Offer guidance with child custody, support, and long-term planning

Every couple’s needs are different. Some start with legal separation and later convert it into a divorce. Others pursue separation as a long-term alternative. And some are ready to move forward with a clean break through divorce.

What matters most is having the support and knowledge to make a decision that works for you and your family’s future.

Need Help Navigating Your Next Step? Call Our Family Lawyer in Schaumburg 

If you’re considering divorce or legal separation in Schaumburg, our compassionate, experienced team is here to help. We’ll listen without judgment, explain your rights, and guide you through the legal process with clarity and care.

Contact us today for a free consultation with a dedicated family lawyer who will stand by your side.

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